Gear

Harnesses, toys and prosthetics explained: types, materials, and how to choose. These are guides to the types of gear, not fake reviews of branded products. We look at fit, materials, hygiene and value, with a plain note whenever a choice is a safety issue.

Harnesses

1 guide

Two-strap, jockstrap-style and briefs: which shape holds steady on which body.

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How to choose a strap-on harness: styles, fit and materials

How to choose a strap-on harness that stays put and feels comfortable: the main styles compared, how to get the fit right, and which materials are easiest to live with.

Dildos & attachments

1 guide

Sizing a first toy, what a shape is really for, and why the material matters.

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Body-safe strap-on materials: silicone, porous toys and safety

A guide to body-safe strap-on materials: why non-porous silicone is the standard, which porous materials to avoid, and how to clean and store toys safely.

Accessories & lube

1 guide

Lube, cleaning and the small extras that make everything work better.

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Best lube for pegging: water-based, silicone and what to avoid

How to pick the best lube for pegging: why water-based is the safe default, when silicone lube helps, what harms toys and skin, and why you always need plenty.

Gear is easier with a second opinion

Sizing, materials and comfort come up constantly once people start. Ask others who already use the thing before you spend anything.

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